Wellbeing practices go hand in hand with resilience, and Denise introduced us to a great metaphor for this partnership. Imagine we are all divers out at sea. Some people were born with buoyancy vests, you can push them under, and they seem to float back up to the surface effortlessly. Then there are most others, who are born with weight belts around their waists which can cause them to sink below the surface. Wellbeing and resilience are like having tools which act like a huge pair of flippers. With flippers you can kick to the surface and keep your head above water more easily.
Like all of us Denise has had to actively develop ways to look after her wellbeing, to cultivate her own flippers. She described her definition of wellbeing as ‘when the resources we have are greater than the challenges we face.’ She names her go-to tools as meditation, being in nature and exercise, yet she also admits to sometimes ‘falling off her cushion’ and feeling out of sync with these daily habits. Acknowledging this non-perfect aspect of being human led us to the topic of self-compassion. Self-compassion is vital for our wellbeing – at home, and in the workplace.
“Self-compassion is the antidote to perfectionism.” – Denise Quinlan –